When your wife gets emotional, you feel that reaction instantly. Most married men react fast and either shut down or get defensive instead of staying grounded. She isn’t asking you to solve what she’s feeling. She isn’t asking you to jump into action. And she definitely isn’t asking you to shut down because you don’t know what to do. She just wants to feel you stay present. But when her emotions rise, your whole system goes into survival mode: Your shoulders tense. Your breath locks up. Your ton