Rebecca Dickinson on Instagram: "If you always change your plans to match theirs so you don’t miss time with them, it’s not because you’re just “flexible” or “easy-going.” It’s because somewhere along the way, you learned that being available was the way to feel secure in love. You’re scared that if you say no or stick to your own plans, they’ll pull away or choose something else over you. So you cancel, reschedule, and rearrange your life to make sure you’re always there when they want you. Thi

Rebecca Dickinson on Instagram: "If your mood depends on how much attention they give you, you’re not “too emotional”, you’re likely just running on an anxious attachment loop. When you’re anxiously attached, attention equals safety. So when they’re affectionate, responsive, and present, your nervous system relaxes… finally, I’m safe. But when they pull back, get busy, or go quiet? That same nervous system panics. It tells you something’s wrong. That you’ve done something to make them lose inter

Rebecca Dickinson on Instagram: "If your instinct when you think they’re being “off” with you is to panic & cling harder, you’re not crazy or “too much”, you’re likely experiencing anxious attachment. When you’re anxiously attached, your nervous system sees any shift in tone, body language, or texting pattern as a potential sign of rejection. Your body goes into fight or flight, but instead of running, you chase. You text more. You cling tighter. You over-explain. You try to “fix” what you think