Principle 4: Let Your Partner Influence You
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Principle 4: Let Your Partner Influence You
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When a partner sends a video, it’s often less about the video and more about connection. In Gottman research, this is called a bid for connection: a small reach for attention, support, or shared meaning. How we respond to these everyday bids shapes the emotional climate of the relationship over time. Repeatedly turning away from bids can lead to negative sentiment override, where partners feel more guarded, reactive, and disconnected. Turning toward, even in small ways, helps partners feel seen,
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When a partner sends a video, it’s often less about the video and more about connection. In Gottman research, this is called a bid for connection: a small reach for attention, support, or shared meaning. How we respond to these everyday bids shapes the emotional climate of the relationship over time. Repeatedly turning away from bids can lead to negative sentiment override, where partners feel more guarded, reactive, and disconnected. Turning toward, even in small ways, helps partners feel seen,
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Our research backs this up Stress is inevitable. A supportive partner changes how heavy it feels. 💙 When couples build friendship, turn toward each other, and show up as a team, marriage becomes a source of strength, not another stressor. Life stays hard. Connection makes it easier to handle. Crediting: @giveittomestraightpodcast @jon.bouff @alexandramadisonn 💙 | The Gottman Institute
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Our research backs this up Stress is inevitable. A supportive partner changes how heavy it feels. 💙 When couples build friendship, turn toward each other, and show up as a team, marriage becomes a source of strength, not another stressor. Life stays hard. Connection makes it easier to handle. Crediting: @giveittomestraightpodcast @jon.bouff @alexandramadisonn 💙 | The Gottman Institute
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How can I be a better partner? Remember, you and your partner are unique individuals with different habits and personalities. Embrace these differences while appreciating what your partner brings to the relationship. Focus on the positive aspects, express gratitude for what they do right, and encourage them to do more of those things. #GottmanMethod #RelationshipScience #Gottman Orginal Creator: Jeff Guenther | The Gottman Institute
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