When the sex stops in your relationship, or you start having sex much less frequently, people usually think that it means there’s been a change in desire. They try to explain the change in their ...

For every couple, there are some topics that are sure to cause a fight. For some, it's the kids, money, vacations, household chores, or what Netflix movie to watch. But even though these conversations ...

Empathy vs Sympathy When we talk about empathy and sympathy, we often use the terms interchangeably. Like they’re the same things. But in reality, empathy and sympathy are very different feelings, and ...

Its amazing how small fights can turn into huge blow-ups. Suddenly it can feel as if your heart is being ripped out of you and everything is falling apart. There’s nothing wrong with you, that’s just ...

Most of us don’t know how to make a real apology. That’s not surprising, because most of us have been taught from early childhood how to give fake apologies. You probably first learned how to give an ...

Couples in therapy often ask me - How often do couples fight? It’s a legitimate question, but most of the time I don’t think they’re really asking me a question. I think they’re trying to tell me ...

You hear the word "vulnerability" everywhere these days—in books, podcasts, and certainly in my therapy office. But for most of us, when our partner asks us to "be more vulnerable," it feels less like ...

My guess is that the conversation went something like this: She says: You won’t believe what those jerks at work did this time (shifting blame onto others). They moved the sales meeting to the end of ...

I lead a grief group every Saturday in San Francisco. And one of the most common complaints from grievers is that people won’t let them to talk about their grief. After a death, the world will give ...

The phrase “Emotional Processing” or “Processing your Emotions” has become extremely popular recently. But what exactly does it actually mean? If you go online, you’ll find a million different ...

The world puts out a very clear message about retirement. Retirement should be your ultimate happy place. So people are very surprised when I tell them that for some people, retirement can be a ...

Grief is usually associated with the mourning process that comes after a loved one dies. But, in most cases, grief actually begins well before death. This is true both for the person who dies, who ...